Why Do Women Want to Marry?

Before reading the whole article below, I would like to inform you that this article came from my grandfather's sister's journal who has passed away for about 4 decades already. I have read her journal once, which is currently under the care of my mother, and I read it again which made me understand it fully. I hope women and men would take their time to read this very interesting thoughts of hers.

*WHY DO WOMEN WANT TO MARRY?*

Why do women want to marry? This something the philosophic male often ponders. To his prejudiced eye, he often seems that most of the woes that befall all women can be traced, directly or indirectly, into marriage.

Marriage appears to cause many of them to go rack and ruin. Or if doesn't, then what does? What else is there to blame? A single girl of 22, in many ways, represents feminity at its peak. She is neat, strong, healthy and attractive. She has a job and is financially independent. She likes sports and is well informed on world affairs. She doesn't know it, but she is in the prime of life.
What happens? She listens to some wedge-headed youth who tells her, "What a pretty dame like you doing wasting yourself behind a computer? Why don't you let me take you away from all this empty nonsense?"

She does. She marries the goof. And then what happens? Why does she go straight downhill? She falls apart like a wet paper bag in a hurricane. The years peel like she was an artichoke.

Before marriage: she could play 36 holes of golf and demand, "anybody for tennis?"
After marriage: she can't walk half a clock without looking around for a taxi

Before marriage: she could carry a 25-pound pack on all day hike without any help.
After marriage: she can't struggle into a girdle without help.

Before marriage: she like better than inviting a boyfriend to her apartment and dishing him up a nice meal.
After marriage: she can't suddenly stand her own cooking anymore. She wants to eat out at least three nights a week.

Before marriage: a nice cloth suited her fine.
After marriage:  something happens to her metabolism. "I just can't take this cold winters the way I used to," she says. "I have to wear a fur coat or I'll freeze to death."

Before marriage: she woke up looking like a dream.
After marriage: as she yawningly places the breakfast toast on the table, she looks like a nightmare.

Before marriage: She could talk on any subject.
After marriage: the only topic she really interested in is, "Why don't you either ask your boss for more money, or look for a better job?"

Before marriage: she loved acting as a baby-sitter.
After marriage: she spends most of her time trying to find a baby-sitter.

Before marriage she didn't have a gray hair in her head, and shape like a willow tree. After marriage?

But why go on with it? What matrimony does to the average woman is obvious to anyone - even herself.

The puzzle remains: why do women eagerly see marriage, when they know its terrible price?

The whole concept of romantic love is a lot of hogwash. It all goes back to the fairy tales - and they lived happily ever after. Marriage is practical business - takes a lot of hardwork.

No other relationship involves so strict a personal adjustment. Too many young people look at the honeymoon as a cure-all for whatever ails the other person. If any changes are to take place, they should be done before marriage.

Confusing infatuation with love can be one of the most costly mistakes. There is always a need of longer courtship. Don't rush into marriage. A courtship of three months or more is imperative.

Changes for successful marriage vary considerably with the age of the couple. Possibilities are less hopeful when the boy is under 22 and the girl is under 19. Best chances for a successful marriage are when the man in between the ages of 28 and 30, and the woman is 24 to 28.

Look for a common interest. Similar economic, religious and social backgrounds are important. Emotional adjustment is more important than physical adjustment. Most essential is the desire to make a go of the marriage. Both husband and wife should share this desire. All other things can be overcome if that's there.

Sex is vitally important but rarely the cause of a disrupted marriage. It becomes a big issue when the other adjustments go off the track.

**All credits to my grandfather's sister. I never met her personally, or see me born, but through her journals, I knew how she considers marriage sacred.