Being Fair: One Way to Show Love?

Is being fair one way to show that you love this person? Like he shows you how much he cares and now should you also show how much you care? He was always there for you when you needed someone to talk to, should you also be there when you need someone to talk to? But what if the person you love wasn't fair anymore? Would you still love him?

I always thought being fair and love was the same thing but NO. It wasn't and never will be. The fact that that person loves you doesn't mean you have to be fair and offer your feelings in return. Yes, you wanted to be fair but isn't it like trading? Trading is when you wanted something and in order to get it, you must have something in return - in equal value of what you wanted to be yours. We all love our mom's right? For what? They carried us in their womb, without the knowledge of our physical being, they already had loved us before they even met us. Our moms also cared for us, nurtured us, taught us our first things and continued until we grew older and soon will become moms or parents too. We love our moms for no reason. If there is a reason that we should be fair to them, that is, to respect them as a person - but to love them in return is always optional. We  love them for no reason, and we feel happy for the love we felt for them. Anyone who disagrees might not have felt the same way for their moms or may have not undergo the same situation many of us have.

Being fair is like counting numbers. Dividing parts of a square equally. Let's say this current relationship you have, when you and your partner go for a date. In your first date, he treated you to a fancy restaurant. Now on your second date, you treated him to somewhere else, lesser than a fancy restaurant and now he told you that he wants to be taken on a fancy restaurant too just like how he did. That's being fair. Could you afford to be in a relationship that goes that way? You both count numbers? If he sacrifices his mother for you, should you do the same for him too? If he gave up his dreams to be with you, should you give up your dreams for his sake too, just to be together?  Maybe there is one part you might be wondering. Being faithful. Your boyfriend was faithful to you and should you also be faithful in return? I don't think this isn't about being fair anymore, it's about trust. When you say your boyfriend is cheating on you, should you also cheat? This is what I call being fair. Fair and trust are completely different things. Your boyfriend remained faithful and the reason some of us might take is that you also wanted to be faithful in return because the trust you gave him was taken care of; and you also wanted to keep his trust so you remained faithful. Trust is difficult to earn but easy to break as they always say. We all know that one way to keep a relationship long lasting and strong is trust - and trust is an essential part.

If you love a person, would you expect something in return? Would you tell her/him to love you the same way you do? Off course, we cannot dictate the feelings of others. If your current relationship is running on being fair then perhaps it isn't love that is making it grow, but just being fair. Some of you may think that you are like we call a "martyr" because you might be caught in a situation where your boyfriend / girlfriend doesn't do the same that you do ask yourself, it wasn't you being a martyr but instead it makes you happy that way and the only "thing" that you might be expecting in return is to see that person smile for what you did. Fair refers to justice, and justice refers to your rights. Do you think you should be prioritizing yourself in a relationship? Intuitively, all we think about was the happiness of the other party even if it means loosing our own. Because there's one thing you are after - HAPPINESS. You can't achieve that when you're just being fair.